How do I live with my mom when she hates me and i hate her?

Your story really moved me. Im sorry your feeling like this. When you dont "pretend" everything is perfect, its reminding your mom, that everything is a mess. Thats why shes taking it out on you, because she wants everybody around her to pretend that everything is okay. She knows deep down inside, that she has failed as a mom. (Well im sure she hasnt failed, but in some aspects she did) But the one thing im sure she did right, was raise a good daughter:) You seem like your a very caring and smart person. When your 18 you could decide where you want to live. I think its best you live with your dad. Your mom seems like shes depressed, ya know i kind of feel bad for her. Even with bad people, their behavior isnt acceptable, but its understandable. You cant spend your whole entire life trying to fix your mom's life. But you can improve your OWN life. She needs to fix her life, she cant be living this way any more. She sounds like shes being selfish but when your depressed- you can be very selfish. When you are allowed- you should move out. Hopefully in a few years this divorce will be over and smoothed out. And dont say that your not worthy of her love- of course you are. :) Hang in there, everything will be okay.